I don’t usually do this, but this a guest post by Ryan Rivera, the publisher and founder of Calm Clinic website. Here he gives some tips on dealing with the anxiety surrounding physical altercations and there aftermath.
Getting involved in a physical fight or altercation can send the body’s fight or flight response mechanism on overdrive. We either react too quickly and fight back or back up and walk away.
Either way, we would have to deal with the consequences of our actions, which can take a mental and emotional toll on us. Those who get too worked up might feel the need to seek an anxiety cure, especially when the repercussions of the incident deeply affected the person.
Getting into fights means you need to work on your disposition. Are you one to throw a fit of rage, or are you more calm and collected when confronted? If you are the former, work on your attitude and try to control your anger. As much as possible, never be the one to instigate the fight. Most people who suffer from rage blackouts don’t work on changing their behavior. Try breathing exercises to clear your mind when in the heat of an argument to avoid doing things you might regret or tend to wallow in after. Trying to get better at handling certain situations could prevent worse things from happening in possible fights in the future.
If it’s too late and you’re already caught up in the moment, do your best to try and act as the bigger person. A lot of times, it’s better to just walk away than retaliate.
They say that fighting a monster can turn you into one, so avoid it if you can. Either way, you would have to deal with the consequences. A lot of people tend to replay the scenes of the fight over and over in their heads. They try to think about what they could’ve done or said better or what they could’ve changed in the situation. This could be very stressful even after the incident itself and could be so hard to deal with, especially if it has become a habit to go over the same event repeatedly.
The aftermath of a fight or an altercation can stick to a person involved for periods longer than one can imagine. It would be wise to work on controlling the emotions that accompany the memory of the fight. Work on calming yourself and trying to clear your head of the effects of the event. Don’t dwell on the negativity and try to think about what you can do the next time you face that kind of situation. Work on improving your behavior and make a vow to maintain it so as not to deal with the kind of stress that getting involved in a brawl can cause.
Condition your mind into thinking that there is nothing you can change about the situation, but you can change the way you deal with it.
Respond to aggressors appropriately and try to control your emotions when you’re caught up in the moment – this way, you wouldn’t have to deal with worse things after the confrontation. Work on responding to threats and taunts better. Don’t let yourself get worked up and choose to let it pass instead of beating yourself up over not fighting back. A lot of times, it’s best to just shake your head and walk away.
The key is to be more chill – don’t pick a fight if you don’t want to suffer the emotional turmoil you and the other party would have to face. Learning how to cope with rage and stay calm is your way of averting crisis and maintaining a pleasant disposition in life, so try to work on getting that kind of attitude.