Below is a sample chapter from my upcoming Kindle book, Self Defence Tips Everyone Should Know.
Chapter 1: Take Responsibility For Your Own Personal Safety
“I don’t even call it violence when it’s in self defense; I call it intelligence.”
Making a full commitment to taking responsibility for your own personal safety is paramount when it comes to self defence.
One of the main barriers to personal safety that many people have in today’s society is that they believe they have no need for any kind of self defence skills or general self protection game plan.
There is no doubt that there is much violence in the world and that it is never far away from our own doorstep. If you watch the news or read the newspapers on a regular basis you would be forgiven for thinking that our society is more violent than it actually is. Even though there is much violence in today’s society, the times in which we live are actually not as dangerous and violent as many believe they are, despite the impression that the mainstream media puts across. As hard as it is to believe, the levels of criminal violence in our society are less than what they were in recent years and beyond. Yes, there is still much violence out there, but not as much as people generally believe.
I’m reminded of the late great comedian and social commentator, Bill Hicks, talking on stage about the news media and how it paints a vivid picture of this truly frightening and horrible world filled with death, violence, war, famine, destruction, disease etc. on a daily basis. And then you look out your window and…nothing, just the sound of silence or crickets chirping in the background. To quote Bill: “Where is all this shit happening?!”
My point here is that the world is not as horrible and violent as some would have you believe. Lots of self defence instructors out there have a vested interest in making people believe that the world is a scary place, that you could get mugged or raped or killed at any time.
While this may be true to an extent, the world is nowhere near as bad as these unscrupulous instructors would have you believe. That’s just marketing, scare tactics to try and get people to sign up to their classes and expensive courses, nothing more.
So am I saying that the world in which we live is some kind of peaceful paradise where violence and street crime don’t exist? Of course not. Obviously these things exist. What I’m saying is that you need to maintain a healthy psychological attitude towards all the bad in the world. Acknowledge that it exists, but at the same time don’t let it affect your life in any adverse way. Don’t allow fear or paranoia stop you from living your life to the full.
At the same time, it would be foolish to think that violence will never cross your path. The risk of violent confrontation still exists, yet many people choose to deny this fact, and therefore don’t see the need for any kind of self defence training.
Some of the reasons people overlook self defence training are:
- A fear of the unknown (don’t like to try new things)
- They possess a defeatist or negative attitude – I can’t do it!
- They think the police will protect them- they won’t!
- They live a very sheltered lifestyle, walking around with a “it can’t happen to me” attitude.
- They think it requires too much effort—laziness, in other wards!
- They are naive or oblivious to the real world.
- They believe God will protect them.
- They claim they don’t have the time or are too busy to look into self defence training.
When looked at, none of the above reasons hold any water. The most important reason from that list to reconsider is the fact that some people think the law or other people in general will save them if anything happens to them.
No! The law will not save you. Why would you think the police are going to be there if something happens? Have you ever called the police out anyway? How long did they take to respond? Exactly.
Only you can take responsibility for your own personal safety, and it is something that you absolutely must do. You must have the attitude that if something happens, no one will be there to save you, so you have to learn how to save yourself.
There is terrific strength to be gained from making this mental shift. No one likes to feel reliant on anyone else. There is nothing worse.
Becoming self-reliant, especially in regard to your personal safety, will not only give you an increased sense of confidence, but more importantly, should you find yourself in a situation where you must defend yourself or risk injury or death, you will react swiftly and forcefully, because you know that it is up to you to do so, that no one will magically appear to save your ass.
You have to save your own ass!
I really can’t stress enough how important this is: take responsibility before you do anything else. Everything else you do in regards to self defence must come from that initial decision.
By committing to taking responsibility for your own personal safety you are also making a secondary commitment, which is this:
That you will never be anybody’s victim.
You must tell yourself that you have the inalienable right to live your life in peace and that no one has the right to threaten that peace in anyway. If someone does threaten you in a physical manner then it is your duty to stand up for yourself and defend against any physical violence that comes your way.
If you don’t install this belief from the start then you will never be sure about your actions in a self defence situation. You are drawing a line in the sand, knowing full well that if anyone crosses it you will react swiftly and forcefully to drive them back over it again.
We will go more into this subject later on in the book.
In the meantime, take a look at the practice drill suggestion below. There will be suggested practice drills in each chapter of this book and they are designed to help you focus and give you action steps that will greatly improve your self protection skills. Once you read a chapter, try out the practice drill. It is essential that you do more than just read about things, you must apply the advice I give you in some practical way, otherwise you will be no better equipped to defend yourself than you were when you first began reading this book.
Sit down and think about what your personal safety means to you and how far you are willing to go to protect yourself and your loved ones. Think about the fact that you can’t rely on anyone to save you if you are in trouble, and then make the firm decision that you will take full responsibility for your own safety from now on. Keep reminding yourself of this decision daily until the belief is firmly ingrained in your mind.